A TRIBUTE to my Mother, EsmeŽ (Pachina)


who passed on to the higher realms on 18th Nov 2001.


Esme ascended 3 weeks later.








Blessing us with her presence on Earth


EsmeŽ  My beloved mother


                                                                   Dennis and mum       Mum and granddaughter Talia     Den, Sandy and mum




And, there
In the mists of my memory
I see you.
And, there
In the mists of my memory
You shall always be.



When my heart no longer beats

cast me into the ocean, my love.

Throw my ash atop the water

and watch in reverence

as the moon commands her waves

to embrace every speck of my dust

and wash me into the vast heart

of this magical planet

I was lucky enough to roam.

And when you miss me the most

come to the sea, my love.

Come to the sea

and let Mother Nature remind you

we are all entirely connected

that we may walk this earth

for so many years

but we are part of its bones


And as you stand at the water

I will rise up with all my spirit

a breeze lifting the hair from your neck

and breathing life back into your weary heart.

When my heart no longer beats

take me to the sea, my love

take me home.



Donna Ashworth




Death is not

extinguishing the light

but putting out the lamp

because the dawn has come.



Esme Stevenson (Pachina) born on the 18th – and left on the 18th - 1 + 8 = 9


9 = The number of Christ and the female aspect of the Buddha – Quan Yin.


Born on the 18th June 1916, and departing on the afternoon of Sunday, 18th November, 2001, at an age of 85 years and 5 months old, in her own bed, with no pain, suffering or illness, surrounded by family and people who loved her holding her hand, aware and knowing everyone present, she gave a quiet sigh and slipped away.


She leaves a family and friends who thought the world of her. My brother Dennis, her granddaughter Talia, and I, always knew how very special our mother was and we loved her dearly.


Her life is a celebration of all that was good. It reflected the very best a human being can be. Her great love and dedication in the raising alone of her two children - teaching us independence and strength, always giving us total support and encouragement to be and do whatever felt right for us, her phenomenal endurance and courage in the face of adversity, never complaining and never making demands of others throughout her entire life, and her wonderful wit and humour that stayed with her right to the end.


I will remember always the strength of this great being and if I manage to take even a small particle of her strength with me as I walk the steps of life, I shall truly walk with angels.


The grace and presence of this ancient and wise soul has enriched greatly the lives of all who knew her. Even people who met her briefly never forgot her.


Thank you, Mum. You have been a tower of strength and support to me - all my life.


You were the greatest, most wonderful and special mother anyone could ever have.


Go forth with your strength and love and peace in your heart. You are the very best.


I will love you forever.    




NOTE: I have connected with my mother many times since she moved on, beginning with a conversation minutes after she left. At the time I was in the UK and she was in Australia. Mum expressed how wonderful and free it felt to no longer have the restriction of a physical body, saying she had forgotten the level of freedom and power we naturally have. She was very happy. Twenty minutes after our conversation together, my brother rang from Australia to tell me that our mum had left!!


I talked to her again about an hour later and could barely believe the difference I felt in her. She was now totally in her power and mastery and extremely joyous. She said 'Tell the others it's wonderful.' 


Thank you Mum for all you gave us




You can shed tears that she is gone

Or you can smile because she has lived 

You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back

Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left 

Your heart can be empty  because you can't see her

Or you can be full of the love that you shared 

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday

Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday 

You can remember her and only that she is gone

Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on 

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back

Or you can do what she would want; smile, open your eyes, love and go on.


 (David Harkins 1981)




Don’t think of her as gone away …   

her journey’s just begun

life holds so many facets

this Earth is only one.


Just think of her as resting

from the sorrows

and the tears

in a place of warmth

and comfort

where there are no days and years.


Think how she

must be wishing

that we could know today

how nothing

but our sadness

can really pass away.


And think of her as living

in the hearts

of those she touched ….

for nothing loved

is ever lost ….

and she was loved so much. 





Do not stand at my grave and weep

I am not there, I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow,

I am the diamond glints on snow.

I am the sunlight on ripened grain,

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush,

I am the swift uplifting rush of

Quiet birds in circled flight.

I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry.

I am not there, I did not die.



 About my BROTHER Dennis, dedicated to helping others.






Dennis was a parliamentary Member of the Australian Capital Territory Legislative Assembly. He served two 3 year terms from 1989 to 1995, thereafter deciding to leave to be able to do more lecturing, writing and training community groups in Australia and elsewhere, in how to take effective action.


Although technically an Independent Member, Dennis  called himself was a Dependent Member, a term he coined to show that all elected representatives have simple and binding obligations. Dennis was 'dependent on the requirements of the Commonwealth Constitution and, if it wasn't a constitutional matter, he obeyed the majority expressed will of his Canberra electorate and, in parliament and voted as so instructed.


Mr. Stevenson discovered the people's will by extensive public polling. He used a new polling method he developed with like-minded individuals, that was inexpensive, quick and accurate - being evaluated by the Australia Bureau of Statistics as having at least 99% accuracy.


During his two parliamentary terms, Dennis rejected the use of a new car, excessive superannuation deal and was the only Member to vote against an exorbitant 40% pay rise. 


From 1965 he served in the NSW Police Force, resigning in 1973 to travel overseas. During that same period he served part-time in the Citizens Military Forces’ 19 Royal NSW Regiment, coming first in both the Intelligence and Sergeants' training courses. Most of his seven years service involved training Intelligence Section personnel.


His travels included the trans-Siberian train journey and some 30 other countries.


During his parliamentary service, he was a Member of the ACT government Fluoridation Inquiry (1989-91). The majority of Inquiry Members would not include evidence from world-wide submissions proving fluoridation to be harmful, undemocratic, ineffective and polluting. Thereupon, Dennis compiled a 177 page Dissenting Report, being the major part of the Inquiries Final Report of 296 written pages.


Dennis introduced a proposed law to parliament for Binding Citizen’s Initiated Referendums (BCIR). It was similar to the long established Swiss model where electors can, by way of initiating and voting at a referendum, veto existing or proposed laws, introduce new laws and recall (remove) public servants who have lost public confidence.


Dennis has campaigned against psychiatric abuse in Australia and the UK, and for a short time, was UK National Campaign Director of the Citizen's Commission on Human Rights.


His first main job was in the photographic section of an Aerial Survey Company, involved in making maps. He studied philosophy, was a Company Director, has operated health centers, and trained people in sales, marketing, public speaking and motivation. He has worked as a life coach, business consultant, counselor and labourer.


His community training covers strategy, polling, creating and running a group, disseminating your message, handling media, running meetings and rallies, raising funds and recruiting, training and motivating people.


He self-published ‘If you don’t look after your body, where will you live?' and is working on four other books; covering democracy, success, anti fluoridation and life. His passion is helping people. For 15 years he was the Master of Ceremonies at Australia’s leading freedom conference - the Inverell Forum.  











Christmas 2009 and years to 2023

Dennis continues to help people and to create ideas that inspire others. He wanted to remind people of the real meaning of Christmas as being a time for sharing, loving and giving. He spent months collecting ‘as new' stuff all around the place, from friends, etc. Then set out to find an empty shop he could use, free of charge, for the last week up to Xmas. The idea was to get presents out to people who couldn't afford them and to encourage people to give away things they don't use or need.


He opened a local shop that  go to give away thousands of items he had collected. There were lovely Xmas quotes all over the windows. A sign writer offered to do a large sign for the shop front and Dennis put it up.


It had taken a few weeks to find an owner willing to loan him an empty shop, but he persisted and found one. The whole project was a huge job; he loaded all the goods himself with many car trips, found a church willing to lend him some tables and spent some time cleaning them all. He also cleaned the shop that had been up for lease and was consequently empty.  


The shop was full of goodies and as fast as people took things, it was being replenished with lots of people bringing more in. There were lots of wonderful things including two lovely rocking horses, many new video and DVD players, TV sets, new recent model Canon printer still in box, videos and DVD's galore, good books, loads of children's books and games, expensive cameras, tons of lovely soft toys, jewellery, china, etc. 


He was interviewed by four TV channels, 7, 9 Gold Coast, 9 Brisbane and Ch 10. Also on local community radio, other radio stations and in local papers - talking about Christmas spirit of giving. With constant radio coverage and many peak TV news slots, the message reached many thousands. We lost count of how many interviews he did but I recorded 11 different interviews done by TV stations.


People in tears sometimes in the shop, families who couldn't afford anything for their kids, old people, the works. We heard tons of lovely stories. One 91 year crippled lady who could only go a short distance using her walker, lived just a few doors away from the shop. The previous day she been given a present by her neighbour's children and was sad she couldn't get out to get them anything to give back. She prayed that night that she would be helped to give them something. The next morning she saw a large crowd outside her home and discovered the free giveaway shop was about to open. She got some toys to give to the neighbor's children. The TV cameras were all there for the opening and she got herself interviewed on TV as well - something for her to talk about at 91. 


Another lady with 5 children had nothing to give her children. She left with enough for all of them, including a full size guitar for her son who had wanted one for 15 years but she could never afford it. Another lady with little money and no TV for her children to watch the children's movies on over Christmas, left with a TV, a video player and tons of children's videos. Some people were just crying with their good fortune. One lovely young lady had gone home after seeing the shop and found 100 things in her home that were new and unused. She wrapped them all and started phoning charities to see who wanted them. Most said they couldn’t take them as it was too late but she persevered and found one who really needed them. She took them over there. She came to tell us about it on Christmas Eve as she wanted Dennis to know his message had been heard.

It was a blessing for many and made their Christmas a more joyful occasion that perhaps it would have been. It's been a total success. The doors closed finally at 6pmon Xmas eve with only a few items left.   


It didn’t end there. Late in the day, someone kindly donated a boxful of large, single cultured pearl necklaces. Dennis had quite a few left over, so he went to three local hospitals and asked the nurses of each ward to point out patients who were alone or needed help. The nurses were wonderful (as ever) and knew everyone on their ward who needed a helping hand, especially the older people who had no visitors. The necklaces were given. It made a difference. It is lovely to know so many who were alone at Christmas, were helped.


As ever, Dennis is doing his usual thing, making sure that anything he used or borrowed during that time. The shop; the tables, etc. were returned in far better condition than when he took them. He spent days bringing the entire shop up to a high standard and has been actively helping the shop owner to lease the shop. It had been up for lease for 6 months with no takers. 

Dennis is always helping people – all year, not ‘just for Christmas.’ As he says, what else are we here for?  


Christmas 2010  He did it again!

See the 'Spirit of Christmas' video of Dennis's free shop on his website. Channel 10, Sydney Australia.  20th December.2010

Christmas   2011 - And he's just done it all again!!

Christmas 2012 - And again! Brisbane QLD. About 11,000 free gifts given away to those in need.

Christmas  2013 - Dennis is helping others to run their free Christmas shops

Christmas 2014 - Dennis doing media interviews to encourage every town in Australia to have a free Christmas shop.

Christmas 2016  - Another Christmas shop in Ocean Shores NSW

Christmas 2017 - Dennis did two Christmas shops this year - Jimboomba QLD  and Ocean Shores NSW

Christmas 2018  - Another Christmas shop in Ocean Shores NSW

Sorry, I missed putting up details of my brother's Xmas shops for past few years; Just been so busy

Christmas 2021 - Another Xmas shop in Ocean Shores ended on Xmas eve after another successful year helping people.

Christmas 2022 - Another one in Ocean Shores

Jan 2022 For the last 18 months Dennis has run a 24 hour day 7 days a week free give away shop in Billienudgel NSW, to help the poor and the homeless.

Using the charming former Billienudgel Railway Station, just 20 minutes North of Byron Bay, Australia's east most point, for his next free shop, so far open 24 hours daily for 3 years (5th April). Dennis smiles and says, "I'm the Station Master".  From early January to the 14th May 2018. 15,000 items were given away in his Free Shop at Brunswick Heads NSW which was open 24 hours a day.

Please spread the word so that many other people will run free Christmas and free give away shops in Australia wide in 2023!


July 2023 Dennis has continued to run the same 24 hour 7 days a week in Billienudgel as well as his hundreds of free books on the wall shelving outside Santos in Mullumbimby NSW  - available free all day and night. He still helps the homeless and offers a lot of help in other areas such as giving free help using common law for people to handle their legal issues.


2024 Same as above


For many years until 2017, Dennis had a stand at the Brisbane Organic market and then to January 2018 at the Gold Coast Certified Organic Market in Miami, Queensland - where he gave away positive life style books (no novels) and soft toys for the kids - ALL FREE.



OUR FATHER Ross Campbell Stevenson




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